Tag: gender stuff

danefonda:

i feel like artists like judy garland never get to be seen as the brooding genius type. ppl think she was just raw talent and emotion that sang big and loud and ppl loved her cuz she was a beautiful mess. there’s just this fundamental divide between woman and man artist that meet a similar demise–the men are viewed as having been too brilliant for this life and the women are viewed as having been essentially too incompetent to make it work. when most ppl offer up judy garland or marilyn monroe as a tragic figure i feel like it’s with little regard to their work and intellect and dedication to their art. anyway that’s why i love any shot of judy garland that’s really deep and introspective. like there she is, my van gogh

closet-keys:

I remember seeing a post a while back talking about how speaker didn’t like being seen as a woman when around men or straight people in general, but wanted to be seen as a woman around other wlw, and that, as opposed to reflecting non binary identity, it had more to do with the fact that their womanhood was defined in relation to loving other women and had absolutely nothing to do with men at all, and that when men and straight people looked at her and saw her as a woman, they were imposing the wrong definition of womanhood on her, and it felt subtly like a misgendering. I don’t remember who wrote it, but I’ve been thinking about it a bit since then, and I kind of feel like that’s how I relate to butchness. It’s one of those signifiers of gender where, when I present butch, it’s to attempt to ensure that no one can separate my womanhood from my being a lesbian. It’s weaving those facets of identity tightly enough that they can’t be forcibly divorced from each other. I think that’s why it feels right to me. 

billnihilism:

also I have had straight female friends, totally divorced from any kind of queer culture at all, literally describe dysphoria to me without having the language or framework to name it. a straight friend and I once agreed in high school- when I wasn’t even calling myself a lesbian let alone understanding dysphoric feelings!- that our lives would be so much better and our happiness so much more achievable if we were just sexless, no breasts, no hips, no genitals. illegible and unknowable. it’s not that all of us are Non Women, it’s that womanhood is by its nature traumatic and alienating. why would your gender feel coherent with your body when your body is literally not yours, by definition

roofbeams:

roofbeams:

notes on bad transmasc aesthete culture

-oxford
-catholicism
-plato’s symposium
-lord alfred douglas
-glorification of colonialism and the british class system
-merchant ivory
-stephen tennant
-boater hats & bow ties
-weird regressive misogyny
-gay subtext in english lit
-secret history character aesthetic edits
-classical sculpture
-guro
-saint sebastian
-mercutio
-skinny white cheekbone androgyny
-romantic poetry
-les mis

@ the niche please note I wrote this post a year ago