I cannot stress enough how important it is to masturbate before reaching out to the person you THINK you miss or wanna talk to. If you bust that nut and still feel that way? Cool reach out, but an unfulfilled orgasm really will take over your mind and get you in some mess you really don’t need to be in
asexuality is a far smaller phenomenon than you think
most of you are experiencing a side effect of SSRIs
Hahahahahahaha. It’s funny, sad, and true.
it ain’t funny man we’ve got kids out here building an entire identity and community around something that they’ll realize is produced by antidepressants as soon as they forget to take their zoloft two days in a row
deadass this is a massive misunderstanding of both asexuality and the side effects of SSRIs lmao
read a book
deadass i’m telling you right now that me and a fucking lot of other people have assumed something was deeply wrong with them for a long time until they realized it was an effect of the antidepressants they’re taking
“read a book” oh yeah let me just go out to the local library and find the book you’re talking about that says “actually there’s no way there could be some connection between the effects of medicines that futz with neurotransmitters associated with pleasure and not experiencing pleasure.” Please point me to the book that says “actually this medicine that is literally prescribed for treating premature ejaculation doesn’t affect one’s sexuality”
man idk how to tell u this post is stupid but it is. your experiences are not universal
I have never been on antidepressants and I have not once in my 17 years of life experienced a desire to have sex with someone in any way, shape, or form. Asexuality is real and not “made up”, as you say
Glad to hear that you’ve never required antidepressants! If you’ll read the post you’ll see that I have not said that it does not exist, merely that it can be caused by medication and that I believe that the overprescription of SSRI antidepressants is one reason why the incidence of self-reported asexuality has risen over the past decade.
I realized I was bi while on antidepressants lmao
Okay i was cool with you, i thought you were a chill, reasonable person, until you decided to completely disregard the reasonable hypothesis presented to you as “aphobia reee!!!!!!”
get out of your soap bubble safe space and understand that maybe something that effects the brain can have related effects on the brain
*affects
Hi! I don’t usually get involved in the Discourse because it’s generally really toxic and only entrenches people in their pre-formed beliefs, BUT I’m an actual real training medical doctor for human beings and there are some medical misconceptions in this post I’d like to address.
So let’s start with this: I’m very, very sorry if your doctor did not tell you the side effects of SSRIs before starting you on them because that’s extremely irresponsible. Decreased ability to become sexually aroused and reach orgasm is the number one side effect of SSRIs, and is the number one reason why people decide to switch to other antidepressants. SSRIs are the most common antidepressant class prescribed because they have the safest side effect profile and are generally the most effective for the most common types of depression, but many people find the sexual side effects intolerable.
The reason many people find the sexual side effects intolerable is because they want to be having sex. A fundamental misunderstanding of asexuality is that it’s an inability to be sexually aroused (AKA the side effect of SSRIs), but for many (and by the definitions upheld by the asexsual community) this is untrue. Asexuality is defined as “a lack of sexual attraction” to others, not “an inability to become aroused or reach orgasm.” The side effect of SSRIs is a distinct phenomenon from asexuality.
Now, are there people out there mistakenly identifying as asexual because they’re misinterpreting the SE of their antidepressant (inability to experience sexual arousal or reach orgasm) as inherent asexuality (lack of sexual attraction)? Probably, yes! If that was your experience then DEFINITELY yes, and I’m sorry that was so upsetting to you. But it is most certainly not the case for every person who identifies as asexual. And for some people, well, maybe it’s HELPFUL to identify themselves as asexual while they are experiencing this side effect of SSRIs – maybe other classes of antidepressants don’t work for them, or they have another medical condition that prohibits taking other classes (for example, anyone with a predisposition to seizures, or anyone with an eating disorder, cannot take Wellbutrin/Bupropion, which is another of the most common antidepressants). And if it makes them feel better to identify as asexual for the time they’re experiencing this…. why not let them?
Finally, for those people who are asexual and happen to take SSRIs… please don’t invalidate their identities based on your own, singular experience. Asexuality is a real identity and asexual people deserve to be validated and allowed to express themselves.
I appreciate that the underlying intent of this post is to inform people who have not been properly educated about potential side effects of their medications. I hope my addition can help to clarify things.
i love sacrilege and i do enjoy some blasphemy from time to time, it is all very sexy
i wonder how many teenagers that identify as ace think sexual attraction is seeing someone and immediately thinking “wow I wanna BANG them RIGHT NOW” and not just “oh, wow, she’s pretty, it’d be nice if she noticed me… anyways time to live the rest of my life.”
Like YES in more contexts that are ALREADY sexual–like a strip tease or like during literal physical intimacy–it may be more sexual but most “sexual” attraction is just… aesthetic attraction that might invite sexual feelings if like you linger on it or if you’re already turned on but like?? most of the time it’s just “she’s hot.”
like it really isn’t that deep. it doesn’t involve a physical response like 90% of the time. the people around you aren’t hard every time someone pretty breezes by.
Moving from tumblr to greener pastures 